For some of us, this simple word creates a havoc of anxiety. For others, this word stirs feelings of gratitude and a feeling of peace. And for others, it may cause a sarcastic reaction. That was where I was at just over a month ago.
By this time, you probably have a person or scenario playing out in your head and you either are smiling, seething mad that I'm even bringing this up or deep in thought about where I could possibly be going with this.
If you find yourself having to forgive people every day, it might be time to take a hard inventory on why you are allowing it to happen in the first place.
Maybe the person you are continually forgiving is someone you work with. Maybe the person you continually forgive is a close friend who is usually there for you. Maybe it's someone you're in a relationship with. Or maybe, if you're lucky, that person happens to be a family member.
For some people, forgiving someone who cheated on them, lied to them or intentionally mistreated them is the last thing they'd ever think to do. For those who may have been abused or victimized, the thought of forgiving a perpetrator seems like a concept that is best left for saints. Or martyrs.
But the truth is, forgiveness doesn't mean you must form a bond with them. And forgiving them doesn't make you a martyr, however allowing them to mistreat you again does.
Want to feel a bit of what the power of forgiveness feels like? Get your tissues ready; this woman forgave the person who shot her in the face. This man forgave his son's killer and now travels with him for speaking engagements around the country. Forgiveness heals like nothing else.